The Polyamorous Misanthrope

Wielding the Stick of Grandmotherly Kindness

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Pondering in the Pool

noelfigart:

Pondering in the Pool

Swimming is where I do a lot of thinking. Now, at first, when you start to swim, what you’re going to be thinking about is swimming. It’s very technique based and focusing on stroke, the feel of the water, your body position in the water, the relationship of kick to stroke and your breathing rhythm are all so overwhelming that when you’re in the pool, this is what you’re thinking about.

This is…

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Fitness Benchmarks

noelfigart:

Do you have fitness benchmarks?  You know, things you want to be able to do physically (that are achievable.  Disabilities exist and are real) that do require a bit of work to maintain.

I thought about this today as I was getting some hot water for my coffee.  The water cooler/heater’s bottle was pretty much empty and needed to be switched out for a full one.

We get our water bottles in five…

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Please Repost

If you’re looking for a chance to do some serious good for the polyamory community, this is totally it. 

Have you ever needed a poly friendly counselor, lawyer, physician or other professional to help you?  If you have, you know FINDING one can be an utter bastard.  We’re trying to solve that, and this is a great way to help.  I’ve known these people for years and they are very committed to serving the poly community.

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Poly Community Announcement - Please Circulate Widely:

Poly Friendly Professionals Directory back online but in need of further repairs: volunteer PHP specialists sought

Hi Poly Community,

It is with delight that we announce that the Poly Friendly Professionals Directory is back online, thanks to the efforts of James Munger, Joe Decker, and Geri Weitzman. Same website as before: http://www.polychromatic.com/pfp/main.php

However, the present fix is a temporary one - we were able to clean up the data, but we weren’t able to figure out what caused the data file corruption. Hence it is vulnerable to being corrupted once again.

We need volunteers who are proficient in PHP and who can truly devote a chunk of time to assist us with rebuilding the database. (MySQL knowledge would also be helpful but we’ve got someone who can handle that end of things if need be.)

Please forward this announcement to poly lists and to poly-friendly PHP specialists until 10/15/14, so that it isn’t running around the internet in perpetuum

Any questions or offers to help can be directed to Geri Weitzman at geriweitzman at gmail dot com

Best,
James, Joe, and Geri

Filed under polyamory poly-friendly professionals

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Don’t Patronize Me

Don’t Patronize Me

I am in a poly relationship. My boyfriend identifies as poly, I identify as… well, I don’t really identify in any specific way. I am just as comfortable inside of monogamous relationships as I am inside of poly ones. I meet each relationship with each person as its own thing, whether there are other people involved or not.

The majority of my relationships have been monogamous, and I have a…

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Grrrr

You know, Moffat on Doctor Who makes me think of why we stay in abusive relationships. We get all this crap and disrespect, and then as an apology, we get this amazing thing that is so wonderful and we forgive where we shouldn’t.*

* This isn’t meant to trivialize real abusive relationships. That’s not as trivial as a TV show, but it was a metaphor that leapt to mind.

Filed under listen doctorwho

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Training, Athletes and Working Out

noelfigart:

Training, Athletes and Working Out

Because we all know that the body needs to move some period of time to be healthy (30 minutes a day seems to be the sweet spot for a range of health issues), many of us will find some physical thing to do.

Some of us walk, others choose running, or getting into a sport, or dance or many other things. When we haven’t been active enough, we go to the gym.

It’s the gyms I want to focus on.

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camo-zamboni:

camo-zamboni:

camo-zamboni:

My roommate and his girlfriend got in the shower together and they’re… Talking about politics?

I was expecting to hear “OH GOD, HARDER,” not “George Washington was entirely correct in his prediction of what distinct parties would do to politics as a whole.”

Nope nevermind, there it is, apparently political debate is just their form of foreplay

STOP REBLOGGING THIS HE HAS A TUMBLR

Hey, one of my fondest memories of after sex conversation was a discussion of the economic effects of waterbeds.

So, no. It’s really not too weird to me.

(Source: camo--zamboni, via omnipresentadam)

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missespeon:

my brain: there is literaly a 0 percent chance the fictional shit from creepy games will show up irl in your kitchen

me: but its dark and scary

True story.

My husband and I were in our early twenties when Jurassic Park came out.  The trash cans for our trash removal were in some brush around the corner of the house.

WE NEVER TOOK THE TRASH OUT IN THE DARK WHILE WE LIVED THERE. 

Because of the velociraptors. They were behind the toolshed and we KNEW it.

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labelleizzy:

mizufae:

pastel-gizibe:

shannonwest:

equalityandthecity:

(via Students help Emma Sulkowicz carry mattress to class in first collective carry)

Y E S 

IT IS GETTING BETTER

When I first read about this woman’s plan I thought it was a strong idea but I was worried that it was a little bit much for one person, no matter how dedicated, to keep it up for too long, especially since she has, you know, college to commit to. I never thought about how, if other people helped her carry her burden, I never thought about how much it would look like pallbearers with a coffin. Which is simply one of the strongest visual symbols one can use to disturb people in the western world.

you rock it, young feminist protesters. Fuck yeah, I am so proud of you.

Yes, they’re awesome.
But I think there is another part about this I like, too.  Notice the burden of that pain is being shared — made lighter by women committed to being here and helping.  They can’t fix it, of course but mutual support makes the burden lighter.
No wonder the patriarchy wants us in competition with each other…

labelleizzy:

mizufae:

pastel-gizibe:

shannonwest:

equalityandthecity:

(via Students help Emma Sulkowicz carry mattress to class in first collective carry)

Y E S 

IT IS GETTING BETTER

When I first read about this woman’s plan I thought it was a strong idea but I was worried that it was a little bit much for one person, no matter how dedicated, to keep it up for too long, especially since she has, you know, college to commit to. I never thought about how, if other people helped her carry her burden, I never thought about how much it would look like pallbearers with a coffin. Which is simply one of the strongest visual symbols one can use to disturb people in the western world.

you rock it, young feminist protesters. Fuck yeah, I am so proud of you.

Yes, they’re awesome.

But I think there is another part about this I like, too.  Notice the burden of that pain is being shared — made lighter by women committed to being here and helping.  They can’t fix it, of course but mutual support makes the burden lighter.

No wonder the patriarchy wants us in competition with each other…

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What if it was all a dream

The Prince:
You've seen the pilot to The Walking Dead, haven't you?
Me:
Yeah.
The Prince:
It's into its fifth season now. What if it turns out the whole thing was a coma-induced dream on the part of Rick Grimes?
Me:
I will fly down to Atlanta, get the show's writers, set up an altar, slit their throats and light the altar on fire as a sacrifice to the Gods of Writing, that's what.

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cumaeansibyl:

ttfkagb:

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locsgirl:

booksoverbae:

tumblurat:

demonofelru:

beyonslayed:

so tumblr staff can mobilize for net neutrality but not for #JusticeForMikeBrown

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Net Neutrality is kinda a bigger issue.

A bigger issue……than the murder of an innocent black kid……? Net neutrality is more important than unpunished murder? This is wild

Whet? 😒

So nice that apparently black people don’t deserve right to LIFE, but people deserve the right to use the Internet for free.

Talk about messed up priorities, man.  Like people wouldn’t adapt and figure out ways around the end of net neutrality, but nah let’s just ignore racism and police brutality combining to continue the mistreatment of black people, because websites are just sooooooooooooooooooo much more important.

*sigh*

Net Neutrality is kinda a bigger issue.”

Translation: “Net Neutrality is kinda a bigger issue because it affects me.”

no one’s gonna fucking die because their internet got slower, jesus christ what is wrong with you people

No, net neutrality isn’t more important than that poor boy’s life.  Not in the least.

But it’s why we got to know about him, about the injustice and how we can be moved to correct these injustices.

The REASON net neutrality is in any way important is because it is how we can know with greater accuracy what is happening in the world and do something about it.

No, Netflix ain’t even on the table for me in the face of that, but I am glad that I had the opportunity to have my comfortable middle class bubble popped because PEOPLE are important.

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Pumpkin Spice Latte

To everyone that is all excited about Pumpkin spice latte season:

Drink up.  Enjoy them.  Love them and revel in them because it is good to have something fun to enjoy.  Hell, have mine (‘cause they ain’t my thang)

But if you get near my hot buttered rum, I will CUT you!